Asking a boy out is easier thank you might think.
In American society, it’s almost always the case that the boy must ask the girl out but, who said things can’t go the other way around?
It may have started with home coming, then the prom, then as time goes on it becomes parties or other social events. The good news is, you don’t have to wait for him to wake up and notice you’re interested in him.
How to approach a guy for a date.
First off there’s no reason for you to be shy. Many men actually find the women approaching them as sexy. In fact, it’s a common complaint amongst men that they are always left guessing what women want. Sometimes a being a little bit more forward can go a long way. The reason why men consider a women asking them out to be sexy is because, it shows them that you have interest in them versus them going up to you and fearing rejection. If you’ve really got your eye on Mr. Talk Dark & Handsom, then you better wake up and chase after him instead of waiting until he stumbles across someone else. Sure, you have sent him “signals” but, the most common problem is that the signals women find so obvious men are oblivious to in reality despite what you may have read in cosmopolitan or other magazines.
The good thing is now that you know something can be done it’s time to take action. The worst that’s going to happen is he says no thanks. In that case think about it… The relationship (a) wouldn’t have worked out, (b) there are probably a dozen other guys in your life you can find, (c) it allows you more opportunities to find Mr. Right.
How to ask him out?
Keep it simple. The world isn’t going to end after all. Depending on how well you know this guy you can go for a casual date after work to dinner, out to a club, bar, or other event. The goal here should be to find something that the guy finds interesting or he at least needs to do (like eat). Rather then having the guy freak out about a high pressure date take things slow, get to know each other, and allow the relationship to mature.
What to talk about?
No guy want to be bored to death with your life story or any person for that matter. Not to say it’s not important but, there’s a time and a place for everything. So keep conversation light, friendly, and mix up the topics so there is a good back and forth motion. This will allow the conversation to easily roll of your tongues and avoid the dreaded “awkward silence” moment. Try to keep the conversation slightly more focused on him so he can get the idea that your expressing interest in him. When asked about questions about yourself don’t get boastful but, rather bring up qualities that he can relate to. For example, if he’s into basketball perhaps mention that you play tennis every so often. Sure it’s not the same thing but, at least it’s within the same general area. It also gives the guy something to work with and ask questions about. If your attentions starts drifting to far off such as whether or not you should buy a Coach purse or Gucci chances are he won’t be able to relate and the conversation will die out very quickly. That’s not to say you shouldn’t express your interests because, you should but, rather do it in a more elegant way. As the relationship unwinds there will be plenty of time where he can discover your favorite brand of chocolates, shoes, etc.
What Next?
So, you’ve gotten yourself a date and your wondering what’s step two? Well, despite the worrisome thoughts in your mind it’s not that hard. Finding a women who’s a bit forward is a rarity so provided things went well you can follow up with another simple activity. Hopefully, during your first date you picked up a few of his interests. With that said, planning your next activity can be as simple as “hey, how about we meet up for coffee on (DAY HERE)?”. He doesn’t like coffee. No problem. You can do just about anything but, keep it simple and non threatening. Try to find something he and you both have at least a littlebit in common whether it’s fitness, sports, food, music, etc. If your a fun person to be around then he’s more liekly to want to be around you and the relationship can take it’s course.
Extra Tips for a Successful Pickup
- Smile
- Be fun & exciting
- Be happy & positive
- Be optimistic
A man wants to find a women who he can stand (or maybe even enjoy?) being around. A pretty face is nice but, it takes more then that for the glue of the relationship. So show him your not just a pretty face but, you’ve got the personality of a winner too! The simple tips above will make a world of difference, the people in your life might just pick up on it too.
The reason for this is that guys hate being around women who are always looking at situations with a pessimistic outlook. He wants to look at you everyday like it’s your smile and positive attitude that makes him want to get to work everyday. Despite how boring his job might be, your always there to great him with a smile and that’s something he can look forward to. If you become that person then he’s going to be far more apt to want a relationship with you. After all, who doesn’t want to be around a cheerful person? 
